We started this blog two years ago as we embarked on a quest to live more purposeful, intentional, and exciting lives. A lot of amazing things have happened since then as we pressed forward in the adventure of life.
We’ve connected with many great people through this blog and have been truly encouraged and inspired!
Now that year two is coming to a close, we’d love to hear your thoughts about rise365. We created a short reader survey and would feel more than blessed to hear some of your thoughts. Any feedback, suggestions, or ideas you have are welcome.
I was recently talking to a farmer who told me a story about a recovery home for people struggling with deep depression. Surprisingly, the recovery method was not pills or any other traditional methods. The way they found people were able to recover the fastest was by caring for a horse on a daily basis.
This story revels something very important in our human nature – we thrive on feeling needed. When something or someone depends on us, it pushes us to new levels.
This past weekend, Claudia and I moved. It was a local move, about 20 minutes from were we were before in the Philadelphia area. Everything went really smoothly thanks to all the friends and family we had helping us.
With with a change like moving comes such a range of emotions. There’s the excitement of a new place and a new chapter in your life. And then also the sadness that comes from leaving a place where you have so many memories – the house we moved from was the first home we owned and where our son was born.
Most of us talk solely from our own experience, hurts, and interests. We ask questions not out of true interest in the other person, but because we want to talk about ourselves more. This type of talk is cheap and easy to come by, but of little value for the listener or the talker. It is just talk.
The person of true depth and maturity sees beyond themselves and risks taking a journey into someone else’s world. They ask thoughtful questions, they rest in the words spoken and don’t interject opinions. They listen and toss the words spoken into the depths of a mind not quick to judge, or speak. They respond with thought and contemplation. They realize the importance of words, their value and weight.
It’s so easy to put off actually being the person we want to be. We think that we’ll be able to be that person down the road, after we have more experience or credibility.
For a while, I used the excuse of my age and put off being the person I wanted to be. I wanted to be a better leader in my family and in our business. I wanted to make meaningful contributions to those around me. I wanted to be more confident.
But I told myself, “I’m still young. I need to work up to being that kind of person.”
We know changing our thinking changes our lives. But what do you do when unhealthy default thinking keeps sticking around? I’m talking about thinking habits that go way back to childhood and other formative years.
Unhealthy default ways of thinking go incredibly deep and many times we have trouble even recognizing them, let alone changing them. And when we do recognize them changing them for good (or completely revamping our thinking) can be challenging to say the least.