5 reasons to play the hand you’ve been dealt

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At times, I think we all wish that our circumstances were different. Perhaps we didn’t get the house we wanted, or our business isn’t doing as well as we hoped. It can be so easy to wish we had been dealt another hand in life.

Growing up, my family used to go to a cabin every year with my cousins. It was something I looked forward to all year. One of the things we did as we got older was play the card game Rook.

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I miss Zig Ziglar

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When you are doing something different, it is so very encouraging to know and connect with other people who are doing different things as well. In fact, it is quite necessary if you intend to continue doing what you set out to do!

When we first set out to change our lives and start our own business, one of our greatest inspirations was Zig Ziglar. We listened to his audiobooks like crazy. This man had enthusiasm that was as contagious as the flu! You couldn’t help but smile while listening to his voice.

I would often find myself thinking, “Well, if Zig can keep doing what he is doing, than I can keep doing what I am doing!”

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This song will inspire you to move forward

Fears, doubts, and insecurities. We all have them. We have thoughts like, “I don’t know how it’s all going to work out.” Or, “What if I’m not good enough and can’t do it?” Or simply, “I just want to give up…”

It’s what we do with those emotions, those thoughts and voices that makes all the difference.

Do we let them paralyze us or scare us back into our shell?

Sadly, this is what most people do.

Today, I want to share a song with you that will inspire you to not be one of those people. Rather, be someone who moves forward in spite of your fears and doubts.

Here is the song (the lyrics are below):

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Help, my spouse is an entrepreneur!

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Entrepreneurship and marriage. I find both to be awesome. Blending them together well, however, can be the tricky part.

I can’t tell you how many people we have met since jumping into the entrepreneurial world that struggle with this issue.

One spouse may be passionate about entrepreneurship and one isn’t, or the business is sucking all the time and the life right out of a marriage. Whatever the issues may be, this is obviously a hot topic and one that needs attention.

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You really give me no choice

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Change makes us feel uncertain, uncomfortable, and sometimes frightened (especially big change). We’re creatures of habit and we like comfort, so most people either never make big changes, or put them off for years and years.

While I certainly haven’t made all the changes in life that I want to (who has?), I have recently been able to successfully make two major changes. Changes that scared the living daylights out of me!

They were: quitting my job to start a business and deciding to stop waiting for the “perfect time” to start a family.

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When you live a clear story, your life is inspiring

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When you think of the most inspiring people that you know, they always had a clear story to tell. In other words, they had a clear sense of what they were doing with their life (at least at the moment), and where they were headed.

It has been re-affirmed to me over and over that it is not lack of opportunity that steals joy from life, but rather indecision with which direction to move.

Indecision causes one to approach life with a nervous twitch and an extra slow response time. “Will this decision hurt?” “Will I regret it?” “What if I choose the wrong thing?”

It can strip a day naked of its enjoyment, a life naked of fulfillment, and it is fully intent on ruining your life.

Indecision leads people in circles rather than lines.

It gifts people with an erratic way of moving through a day and a life. Darting this way and that, they end up jumping upon any distraction as if it were their last crumb of food. Afterall, distraction is a drug that numbs them and makes them forget, at least for that one moment, how lost they are.

“When a person can’t find a deep sense of meaning, they distract themselves with pleasure.” Viktor Frankl

So, how do we avoid indecision and live a clear story so our lives can be inspiring? Here are some things I have learned along our journey.

1. Get to know yourself - Study how you were created to function, and when you are functioning at your best. (I figured this out by taking the DISC personality profile and the Strengthsfinder test and by journaling and writing A LOT.)

2. Figure out what you really enjoy doing - What makes time fly by for you? And start doing more of it.

3. Get clear on where you are going - Get yourself a life plan.

4. Pursue work you enjoy – Stop believing the lie that you can’t and shouldn’t pursue work you enjoy and do something fun with your life. Have the courage to let yourself dream again.

5. Give yourself time limits on making a decision  – 2 days to 2 weeks is all the time you need. Don’t let a decision drag on, this brings so much discouragement.

6. Start a blog - Make it public but you don’t have to advertise that it is public if you don’t want to. Write there every day for awhile. Let yourself process life through what you notice and think about. Writing will absolutely change your life.

7. Start a scary, simple project  – Do something that fulfills you and also helps other people in the process. (More info on scary, simple projects here.)

8. Stop overcomplicating things  – You can’t always see 10 steps in front of you. Start with something you enjoy and simply move on it, do something with it, the path opens as you step forward.

9. Read, read, read -  Let your mind explore new avenues of thought. This has changed my life more than anything else.

Overall, never forget that each of our lives have great purpose and the best lives/stories are the ones lived with passion, risk and adventure!

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Sometimes you have to let things go

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Recently, I had the privilege of co-hosting a Starve The Doubts show with Jared Easley where we interviewed Chris Ducker on his new book, Virtual Freedom.

Chris shared some really great advice, much of which was centered around business and the importance of building a great team. This was a great reminder for me as I run my business.

But Chris also touched on how it’s important to “let things go.” This is such a great reminder and has many more applications than just business.

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A pallet bed reminds me to embrace my limitations

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I think we let our limitations dictate what we view as possible way too often. For example, I want a new bed frame for our cramped bedroom which is engulfed by our mammoth bed, but our piggy bank has just coughed up its last penny.

So, what do I do? Sit and mope? Ok, that being tried already, what else do I do?

Since moving to a smaller place, we have needed to make multiple adjustments when it comes to stuff and space. Lots of stuff and big furniture does not fit well into small spaces. It makes one feel cramped.

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Does God want us to fulfill our dreams and desires?

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We all have dreams and desires. Some want to start a business; some want to travel; some want to work with kids; some want to work with computers; some want to write a book.

But where do those dreams and desires come from?

Are they part of a selfish nature and need to be reigned in, or altogether turned away from?

Or, are they given to us by God, part of a divine purpose for our lives?

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